The "Leadership" and "Headship" Craze & Obsession in Marriage

 


This craze and obsession about leadership and headship in marriage has fast revealed the pedophilic tendencies in many men.


Mind you, control is nicely termed "leadership" to make it easier to digest. 馃檮


Because of the quest to control and dominate, many men hunt young girls and children to marry so they can leverage on their naivety and innocence to assert dominance on them.


This craze and obsession for control that has been propagated systemically and structurally in society, and sustained by culture and religion, of a man being the "head" in a marriage relationship, and supposed to "lead" and be "in charge" in the home, has turned many men into...ihe m na-amaghi (what I don't know). Gangsters? Maybe.


"Men have to lead. Men are the leaders in the home", they resound.

Let me just ask you:

You that will work as a civil servant for 50 years, retire, and receive your pension from the government afterwards, what phenomenal place are you exactly going to? Where are you "leading" whoever you're leading to? Is it to the village every Christmas?

Give me a break, please!


It is by this "head" and "leadership" cow dung that I've seen that men also have their own fantasies and happily-ever-after kind of imagination. 馃槒


With all due respect, where exactly are you "leader-shipping" this leadership to? 馃槼


WHERE EXACTLY ARE YOU GOING TO?

Jupiter?
To discover another planet?

That you are scurrying ever so desperately to lead someone else to.


Afajuo unu af贸 (After they fill you) with fantastic teachings and conditioning, you'll never use your own brain to ask, "Is this born out of my own desires to love and partner with the woman I cherish, or to perform to the world the version of the man that has been pre-fashioned for me?"


If you'll at all think about leadership in marriage, the picture that should come to your mind should be: taking initiative in identifying and solving challenges, being innovative, encouraging team work, being the motivational backbone, sacrificing for your spouse, being a strong support system for your spouse, exercising self control and self governance, and working hard to make your relationship exciting and progressive. And it goes both ways, for you and your spouse!


However, if you want to conquer and rule like the head of your village, do it in truth! There might still be a community or a nation out there that you can lead some troops into to conquer and rule - ka o doo anya (so it will be clear). Don't use a woman as your lab rat and marriage as your laboratory to achieve your vain desires.


When some men hear "marriage institution", they picture the biology lab in the said institution where they are the scientist-in-charge and the woman, their guinea pig for experiment!


Marriage was never designed as a head and neck, or head and tail arrangement, or whatever strata that has been finely coined, developed, and propagated for generations.


I will keep saying it that marriage as we have it is not the marriage that God originally intended. Men hijacked the system, turned it into a control framework to satisfy, in perpetuity, their selfish purposes, but fighting tooth and nail to keep things that way, even using the Name of the Lord to place a stamp of legitimacy on it.


I have promised myself not to be part of ihe ga-emer煤 m ah煤 (what will injure me). 脕 ch贸r贸 m akwa, mana 贸 w煤gh铆 nk铆kara akwa (I want a cloth, but not a rag). Kama ma-erijuo af贸 dachie uz贸, ma-agbara 贸n煤 ruo (Rather than eating to stupor and falling on the way, I'd rather starve and reach my destination).


Unu gaa zuo ike (You people should go and rest) with your "head" and "leadership" propaganda designed according to your selfishness and primitive desires!

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