BE VOCAL: YOU ARE DIFFERENT!

Be vocal about who you are, what you want and what you stand for.

Being vocal is far from being rude, abusive or talkative. It is the quality of being able to help people around you understand your difference and uniqueness so that they can differentiate between you and every other person. It is the ability to say NO to disregard or being taken for granted.

We live in a world where it is easy to be classified into a group where you may not belong. We live in a world where it is easy to be treated like every other person though you may not like that treatment. Hence, it is your responsibility to make it clear that you don't fit into a general classification and that you are different. You have to let people know that you cannot be spoken to, viewed as and treated as every other female or male.

People find it convenient to lump everyone they meet into one group and use the same measure of attitude towards them with the misconception that all are the same. It is only those who are uncomfortable with that generalization that confidently and loudly express their difference and insist on being taken as such. 

It is rather unfortunate and disheartening that there are people who are uncomfortable with the general classification they have been swept into due to their sex, education, temperament, ethnic group, race, economic status, and the likes, but remain silent and tolerant about that. This may be because they are not informed of the voice and uniqueness they have or they have been deformed from years of being put down by their society or rather they don't want to shake the table thereby causing a disturbance to the "peace". More so, they may be afraid of being misunderstood by people in their society, hence, they play safe by saying and doing what everyone else says or does.

The fear of being misunderstood can keep one in eternal quiet and consequent mental, psychological and emotional abuse. It is an attribute of people pleasers. How come you are the only one who would be misunderstood? Is it a sign of maturity not to express your dislike and distaste even in extreme situations? If you are being treated like trash is better than you, you have to speak up and damn whatsoever misunderstanding. If they misunderstand you, it is the fault of their brain and not your fault. They just need to upgrade their understanding capacity.

People who have made history are those who refused to be put into the same mould as everyone else. They boldly expressed their difference and insisted on being addressed and treated as such. This is regardless of the sensibility or viability of their opinions. 

Most wonderful ideas remain quietened and unknown simply because the bearer of the idea is not vocal about it. Those who are not that smart or gifted are being heard and recognized because they refused to be quietened. They took the step to insist on being heard and regarded.

My little advice to establishing and expanding your positive notoriety is this: MAKE SURE THAT NO ONE STAMPS YOU DOWN IN YOUR OWN SPACE. No matter how little your current space is, just make sure that you are in charge and your difference is noted and respected. From there, you will replicate it to any level of endeavor you find yourself in.

Always Remember: YOU ARE TOO BIG TO BE UNNOTICED AND TOO RELEVANT TO BE DISREGARDED.