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  Dear Gentleman, Welcome to the download section of What I Want Everyday - A 30-day Practical, Interactive Journal for the Men who want to Love their Woman. You've taken an important and life-changing step for yourself and your marriage. Click on the link to purchase 👇🏿    https://selar.com/o0o111n214 Refer this journal to the men in your space and actively use it everyday. All you need to know about how the journal works is found inside it. Cheers 🥂 

  We often hold back on starting something, whether it’s a new idea, a movement, or a bold career move, because we are waiting for someone else to go first. 📍 We think, “When they start, I will join in. When they lead, I will follow. When the way is clear, I will step forward.” But here’s the twist - they are waiting for you to go first. They are watching, hesitating, and hoping someone will be brave enough to take the first step. The truth? Every trailblazer started with uncertainty. No one had all the answers before they began. They just had enough courage to start. So maybe you are not just "one of many"; maybe you are "the one". 💦 The one who will make it easier for others to follow. 💦The one who will turn "what if" into "we did it". Stop waiting for permission. Stop waiting for a perfect moment. Go first. Lead the way. Blaze the trail. Because your courage could be the signal someone else has been praying for.

  Ever achieved something big… yet felt like you didn’t deserve it? 🤔 Like any moment, someone will “find out” you’re not as capable as they think? That’s Imposter Syndrome, and it’s stealing the confidence of even the most qualified people. In this new episode: “Imposter Syndrome - The Confidence Killer”, I share how to spot it, stop it, and step boldly into spaces you’ve already earned the right to be in. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2WLXONky31GwjVD3rHF6hX

🎉CONFIDENCE UNLEASHED IS NOW OUT!!! The long-awaited has arrived and you would be excited at what it offers. 📖 Excerpt from the E-book  "The first and most liberating truth on the journey to self-confidence is this: you are a human being - and so is everyone else. We often place people on pedestals: the CEO in the boardroom, the eloquent speaker on stage, the confident colleague who always seems to know what to say. And while it is okay to admire others, the danger comes when we begin to see ourselves as less than. Less important. Less qualified. Less deserving of space, of attention, of respect. But here’s the truth: no one is born with more right to speak, lead, or shine than you. We are all flesh, blood, spirit, soul and stories..." 📚 Confidence Unleashed is here! Get ready to discover/take back your voice and stand your ground without apology. Click on this link to buy your own copy of Confidence Unleashed:  https://selar.com/331488ls15

  Countless times, I’ve found myself in rooms and situations where everything - the tone, the faces, the silence - was trying to quench my voice and push me to the background. I was outnumbered. I was alone. But I stood my ground anyway. I spoke up, even when my voice trembled. Because I knew who I was… and what I refused to become: invisible. That decision - to speak up, to hold space for myself - has made all the difference in my life. And it’s the reason I wrote this book: 💥 Confidence Unleashed: How to Speak Up and Stand Your Ground Anytime, Anywhere 💥 This book is for anyone who’s ever: ✔️ Been talked over, brushed off, or dismissed ✔️ Felt pressured to stay quiet just to “keep the peace” ✔️ Been underestimated because of their silence ✔️ Lost themselves trying to avoid conflict You don’t need to be loud to be bold 💪🏻 You don’t have to fight to be firm 🏋🏻‍♀️ But you do need courage, and the tools to express it. 📚 Confidence Unleashed is coming soon. Get re...

  It’s often said that if you want to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go far, go with others. And it’s true. The value of surrounding yourself with like-minded, success-driven people cannot be overstated. 📍But here’s something just as important: You must understand the rules of engagement when walking with a group, so you don’t fall into the subtle traps that can come with it, even in the most successful circles. Here are three dangers to beware of, and how to avoid them: 🔹Losing Your Identity You are unique - not perfect, but valuable. That uniqueness is your contribution to the world. But in trying to fit into a group, you might unknowingly trade your personal identity for the group’s identity. 🔻Remedy: Be intentional about making your individual self known. Let people see YOU - what you stand for, what you bring to the table - beyond the group or clique. 🔹2. Comparison that Leads to Either Pressure or Comfort Being in a group can blur your sense of progress...

The thought that you are not irreplaceable should not make your heart sink or scare you. If it does, it could mean that your self-esteem is not as healthy as it should be.  I would like you to note the following: 🌹You are special but not irreplaceable. 🌹You are a genius but life will always move on in your absence. 🌹You are the sweetest person in the world, but people will always have others walk into their lives when you are gone. 🌹You can be missed but not lived without. 🌹Your exact person and uniqueness cannot be replaced. However, there would always be someone that people would adapt to when you are gone, even if that person is a terrible option. It's a truth that most people are yet to tell themselves, that they are not irreplaceable. However, that is the truth that would set them free. It would marvel you how people can cope really well without you. But that shouldn't surprise you if you have understood and accepted the fact that no one is irreplaceable. You, as well...

  “...Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you." Matthew 7:6 You have to be discerning.  Not everyone has the ability to discern your value and reward your true worth. Therefore, don't bother giving yourself or value to a person or people who are undeserving. Entrust people with the extent of you which they can appreciate, based on their level of understanding.  The costliest painting in the world is Mona Lisa by Leonardo Da Vinci, valued at $870 million, according to BelArt Gallery. That's a lot of money for one painting, right? However, it is valued that much because people, who were discerning of its worth, placed a corresponding value to it. Think about this question deeply: • Could it be that you have been viewing your worth through the lens of people who are undiscerning of your true worth? It is time to pick those pearls you threw before the "pigs" (the people who can't understand your true worth), and mov...

  Perspective is a matter of knowledge, growth and advancement. 🩸Two people see a piece of clothing material. One person sees it as a finished product to be wrapped around the body, the other sees it as a raw material that will be designed into a fabulous attire. 🩸Two people see a palm fruit. One person throws it into his mouth, eats it and walks away. While the other plants it and gains a whole palm tree, with the plan to process the palm fruits into soap, body cream, drugs and more. Your perspective determines your drive, your expectations and your commitment. People cannot grow beyond their perception of what success is about. They can settle for less still believing that they got the best out of life. What you may consider as your starting point may be someone else's peak. It's all about perspective. And your perspective is formed by what you know. You should be mindful of the people that rub off on you. 🌻Choose to interact with people who see bigger pictures of w...

The fact is this, there's nothing you may say now that has not been said before, one way or the other. However, 🌻Nobody can say it the way you would. 🌻Nobody can give it that profound meaning the way you would. 🌻Nobody can reach your audience the way you would. 🌻The impact your words will make to your audience would be deep and transforming. That's a lot of difference! You are the difference! So, speak it! do it! write it!  Because it comes from you, whether said/done a million times, it's different and unique! Vous êtes très speciale🌻 Welcome to the beautiful month of June🤩

  There's an Igbo adage that says, "Ahú ihe ka ubi, èréé óba" (If one sees something greater than the farm, one sells the barn).  It means that if you see (foresight) what is bigger and better than what you have, you'll sell what you have to get that thing. I like to use Igbo adages. They have deep and instructive🙇 meanings. There's a level of growth and understanding you'll attain which will make you consider your present earning or level in your career as unfit to remain in. In that situation, you'll "sell that barn" in order to step into that desired place. Foresight🧐 is the ability to judge correctly what the future will be and prepare for that future. If you quit your job to further your studies or take a training, it may seem you just lost the money you will make while working that job. But the level that additional training, schooling or certification will place you afterwards, will exponentially increase your relevance, demand as well a...

💪Resilience is the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties. It is that characteristic exhibited by some trees, in that when a heavy wind blows against that tree, the tree bends backwards almost to breaking point, but you see it spring back up afterwards. The world comprises of challenges and how you take challenges define the outcome of your life. Being tough is a matter of your inner being and not your outward appearance.  In Igbo language, there's a proverb that says,"Mberede nyírí dike; mberede ka eji amara dike." When translated into English language, it means, "Sudden adversity weighs on the strong; in sudden adversity the strong is known."  Fire is not interesting at all, but it reveals the beauty of gold! Having it bread and butter does not give you the accurate picture of life and it does not give you any inspiring story to tell. Such stories are capable of strengthening the weak and giving hope to the hopeless. The challenge you f...

 Do you like yourself? 'To like' according to the Cambridge dictionary means: "to enjoy or approve of something or someone" >Do you enjoy being you? >Do you like the way you talk, smile, laugh? >Do you admire you and are happy that you are you and not someone else? I have come to that point where I look at my picture and I'm happy to be me. I like the way I smile, laugh, talk or even stare, regardless of what anyone may think. There are times after hearing myself talk, that I would lavish accolades on me. I would be like, "Wow, you are really smart. I mean, you really have good brains and wisdom to have come up with such great lines." Enjoying and approving yourself is the gate pass to genuinely enjoy and approve of others. You cannot give what you don't have. If you can't spot out the gift(s) and abilities you have, how will you be able to see that in another? Jesus was careful to say, "...love your neighbor as yourself." Henc...

I started brooding on the Bible's description of the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31:10-31 and an understanding struck me. I rushed to the Bible to check it out and here was my finding: All through the episode of the virtuous woman, we saw all she did - her diligence, her wisdom, her perseverance, her enterprise and how she took care of her household. Her husband gained fame and respect in the community because of her, as it was stated that "Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders." Verse 23 Do you know that strength can fail the virtuous woman, even her motivation can lapse? What then was the lubricant of the virtuous woman? It is stated in verse 28-29 of Proverbs 31: Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her : “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” HER HUSBAND PRAISES HER   'Praises' is a present tense. Which means he did that every so often. He praises her...

The difference in time zones is God's way of informing us that we are not in a competition with another's time and season. Your dawn is another's dusk. Your summer is another's winter. Your rainy season is another's dry season. Stay in your time zone and make the most of it! You complain of the cold while another complains of the heat. You love the sunshine, while another wish to see the snow. You are overwhelmed with constant rainfall, while another longs for just a drizzle. 📍Make the most of your time and season. Remember that what you have now, where you are now and who you are now may be another's dream or history. Don't beat yourself up now for what is scheduled to come later. Respect process and timing. You can prosper in your time zone!

The happiest moment in your life is not when you can afford to buy anything you want, travel around the world, mingle with top persons in the world, eat anything at any five-star restaurant in the world, the list goes on. The happiest and the most fulfilling moment in your life will be when you realize that with or without all these afore-mentioned accomplishments, YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! You are enough as a person, a human being created wonderfully and fearfully and you are enough for the purpose for which you were made. Knowing you are enough is not a licence to be a mediocre. No! It is a licence to be ambitious, to desire to accomplish great things because you know that you are deserving. It is a licence to wait for breakthroughs with your head held high about yourself, knowing that with or without that accomplishment, YOU ARE ENOUGH! It is a licence not to let how many goals you achieve determine how valuable you are considered, because without that goal, YOU ARE ENOUGH! It is a licence ...

  Anything or anyone in your life that requires you to reduce/lower your values, principles, standards, ethics, morals and/or behavior in order to be or stay relevant to you is faulty, defective and not worth being in your space/life. By reducing/lowering your values, principles, standards, ethics, morals and/or behavior, you will be conversely affecting in a negative way the functionality of the needful things or people that depend on your original values, principles, standards, ethics, morals and/or behavior to be and stay relevant to you. Test : If you have a faulty Television set that requires you to reduce the current of your Generating Set in order to function and you have an expensive and new Freezer that it's compressor will be damaged if you effect that reduction, what will you do? For me, I will discard the Television set, save up and buy a new one that can function with the current of my Generating set. I cannot afford to end up with two faulty appliances: the already fa...

You don't need everyone you come across to see your value. You just need that one right person to see the value in you.  You can be an amazing footballer all you want, but until a manager (or someone responsible for the recruitment of football players) of a football club sees how valuable you are and absorbs you into the football club, you will keep rigmarolling in a football academy and remain unknown and uncelebrated. We appreciate the persons of Lionel Messi, Christiano Ronaldo and other football stars because of how sensational they are on the football pitch. However, if the right person didn't see their value and decide to give them a hand to get to where they are now, we will not have the opportunity to have such football champions to celebrate. Truth is, there may have been other players who were better than them in their football academy, but were not chosen. There may have also been other players they were better than but those were chosen before them.  You just need ...

Be vocal about who you are, what you want and what you stand for. Being vocal is far from being rude, abusive or talkative. It is the quality of being able to help people around you understand your difference and uniqueness so that they can differentiate between you and every other person. It is the ability to say NO to disregard or being taken for granted. We live in a world where it is easy to be classified into a group where you may not belong. We live in a world where it is easy to be treated like every other person though you may not like that treatment. Hence, it is your responsibility to make it clear that you don't fit into a general classification and that you are different. You have to let people know that you cannot be spoken to, viewed as and treated as every other female or male. People find it convenient to lump everyone they meet into one group and use the same measure of attitude towards them with the misconception that all are the same. It is only those who are unc...

It is the people in a country that bring wealth to the country. There's no tree in the Government houses of each state in Nigeria and in Aso rock that yields money to the government for the running of the nation as well as the expenditure on the leaders. Nigerians should understand that our leaders don't spend their money while serving in any political position. Rather, we are the ones that feed, clothe and pay for their luxurious life. We do this by the direct and indirect taxes we pay. There's nobody in Nigeria that does not pay tax directly or indirectly. Hence, you should disabuse your mind from thinking that a politician that gives you any amount of money has done you a favor worthy of your loyalty and support. Remember, if that politician gets into power, he will be maintained with your money. He will fly on private jet but you will be trekking or driving on bad roads.  The tax you pay on the phone calls you make, the personal effects you buy, the food, water and clot...

  A sign of good leadership is the improvement of the standard of living of the people in that nation. There should be an improvement on the economy of the nation. The bible records that when David was on the throne, the nation of Israel was unconquerable. Israel was a force to the outside world. There was national security and boundary protection. Also, the economy of Israel was good. It was good to the extent that King David built a magnificent palace without borrowing a dime from any nation. Israel's economy was so good that King David thought to build a temple for God. He had the design of the temple mapped out and the resources were provided by him before he died. The temple was a wonder to behold. Then Solomon came on board as the King of Israel after his father David. He chose to rule by wisdom and that wisdom set Israel on a pedestal which was higher than the nations of the world. The Bible records that during King Solomon's reign, silver was like sand in Israel. Solomo...

  It is noteworthy that this article is not an analysis of the laudable Judgement delivered by Honourable Justice D. E. Osiagor (Judge) but a reproduction of the parts of the judgment where His Lordship held that the Ikoyi Marriage registry can lawfully conduct, celebrate and register marriages, as well as issue marriage certificates. The need to write this article arose due to the booming nation-wide rumour that Ikoyi Marriage Registry is banned, which has led most persons into misunderstanding the above-stated Court judgement.  BRIEF FACTS The Plaintiffs' (Eti-Osa Local Government Council,  Lagos State, Egor Local Government Council, Edo  State, Owerri Municipal Local Government Council Imo State and Port-Harcourt City Local Government Council Rivers State) filed a suit against the Defendants (Hon. Minister of Interior, Attorney General of the Federation and Minister of Justice and Anchor Dataware Solutions Limited) before the Federal High Court, Lagos State in Sui...