YOUNESS

 


My sister said to me a certain time, "I don't like eating a food that tastes like another kind of food. If I'm eating yam and it's tasting like chicken or I'm eating soup and it's tasting like jollof rice, it's confusing to me and I don't like it at all." 


This statement made me laugh plus her  facial expression as she was speaking. I thought to myself that she was very selective. Years later, I realized that it was also true for me. I like to eat cucumber, but I will not enjoy eating a banana that tastes like cucumber. I enjoy eating soup and swallow (eba, fufu, etc) but one day, I tasted a jollof macaroni that tasted like soup, I couldn't eat it, at all. If it's egusi soup I'm eating, let it taste like it and not like something else.

You feel me.


If it's you I'm meeting, let me meet you. If it is another person or a character in a movie I'm meeting, let me meet that person.

Be you, because it's you we want to 'taste', and not the three or more persons you are blending into. Even if everybody seems to be eating okro soup, egusi soup is still proud to taste the way it does because it knows that those who love its uniqueness will come for it. It has 'discovered' itself and it's not afraid of being so. If it starts to draw and taste like okro soup, people who come for it will be confused and abandon it, because it has lost it's uniqueness.


They came for its 'Egusiness'. We have come for your 'Youness', discover it and keep being it.

Don't give it up because it seems like the other person or character is in vogue. Everything that faded away was once in vogue!


YOU will always be in vogue for those who should be in your space. Just protect your 'Youness', so we will not be confused and disappointed when we come to be blessed by your uniqueness.

I CARE ABOUT YOU!


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