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  Written by Chiderah Beulah Ojukwu-Ngele There's nobody that has life going smooth for them all the time. Even motivational speakers have days of being unmotivated. They may have issues in their life that can be a thorn in the flesh and have resisted many remedies. Don't even think rich people are always happy. There are times they despair of life, hate life and even money. Things happen to everyone in life. Those who are highly placed have problems that even make them not savour the delicacy served on their exquisite dinning table. Everyone, I repeat, everyone has their share of challenges that are really challenging. Don't even resort to social media to determine the condition of people's lives. Everything there is selected. When it's picture time, it's only natural for us to put on our best smile, use a nice background, dish out our best pose and to crown it all, to use a catchy caption to post it on social media. It doesn't show anything! Don't try ...

Life is like driving a car on the road. You will overtake some cars, other cars will overtake you. That is the normal way of life. No offense is taken. The major concern is your destination. Your destination is more important than counting the cars that overtook you.  Being overtaken by another car does not preclude you from getting to your destination. You just keep moving! You'll get to a junction where every car will take the different turns to their different destinations. A fool is one who keeps up a race competition with another car, while forgetting he has a place he is  going. He is more interested in overtaking the other car just for the sake of it despite the likelihood of an accident.  Don't forget why you are on the road of life. Keep your destination in mind. You'll avoid some senseless chase, while patiently keeping on to get to your destination. Written by Chiderah Beulah Ojukwu

Rejection can be your stepping stone to self-actualization. I know a lawyer who was rejected by a notable law office in Lagos even though he was previously offered a job position in the law office. It made him go back to the city in which he completed his national service. Shortly afterwards, he established his own law office in that city-a place considered unlikely for him to practice law, owing to where he hails from. Currently, he has become a shining light in darkness and has influence beyond the said city. I have experienced rejection which made me weak and disappointed. When it seemed that I was down to my last option, one more option came to mind. Amazingly, that door opened! It was better than the others and was what I really desired. You may be knocking on a door which you have passed the level. It may be a door which is not yet time for you to enter in or a door that is not for you to enter. Sometimes, we need to get rejected into a better place. We need disappointments to p...

Temptations and deceptions usually don't look like what they are. They usually mask themselves as opportunities. They come so you can abandon where you are and what you have. They come to give you hope but this hope disappoints. TAKE CAUTION! Most times, when you are having some problems with your God-ordained place or person, the devil introduces the distraction of another option.  The other option is a bait to lure you out of the God-ordained place or person for your life. Those other options are desert clouds: you cannot hold onto them. Like fog they will disappear and make you miserable. If you make the mistake of impulsively deserting the place you were or the person you were with to go for the new option, you will discover that at the end, you lost at both ends.  That is why entrusting one's life to God and trusting God for one's life is the assured life-saving option one has. When these things are happening, you may not understand that their mission is to cause you t...

Observation is not enough! Understanding mechanism is the life of learning by observation. Why is it done this way? That is the question which understanding mechanism seeks to answer. I used to observe my mum while she cooked. I noticed that in making stew, she would pour groundnut oil into an empty pot till it gets to a certain level, before she puts her tomato paste. When I was in the junior secondary school, I'd already started cooking in my house. I was to prepare stew that Sunday night. I carried the gallon of oil and started pouring the oil into an empty pot just like I observed my mum do. It got to a certain point where I thought she normally stopped, then I stopped. How was the outcome of the stew? My Dad jokingly said that the oil he bought must have finished.  The stew was a fountain of oil! I kept making mistakes in cooking until I understood the mechanism of cooking those dishes. Until I understood the reason behind the methodology in cooking of those meals, the outcom...

Have you ever felt so disappointed and anxious? Anxiety and feelings of disappointment arise when one is engrossed with having expectations of people or systems. When you have made certain applications, registered for some programs and the likes, you expect feedback or result. When it is not forthcoming, you get tensed. At a point, you may start feeling that nothing works. You may have tried your best and it seems nothing responds to you. I've been there. But no more! I've found out that it was not the right way to view the situation. Each situation comes to pull out the innovative YOU . Therefore, for that anxiety, hopelessness or feeling of disappointment to disappear, you have to think about the situation differently. WHAT DO I HAVE TO OFFER MY WORLD? When you think of what you can give to your world, your mind leaves what others can give to you. You will focus on delivering value to your circle of influence. When you are engrossed with making things happen for people, you w...

  My parents' room were usually under lock and key all the time when we were kids. The keys to their room were like hidden mysteries. The only time you can access the room legally was when they were inside the room or you were specifically sent by any of them to get something. If they mistakenly leave their rooms open, the moment they come back, they will be in suspicion as to what may have gone wrong in their absence. One will ask me: How do you expect your parents to leave their room open when they find it difficult to leave the parlour open when they leave? Thinking back on these facts keep me in wonder as to how all those have changed. Not just changed to the point that one can enter their room in their absence without their permission but that the very keys to the room can be left in one's care. My God! When one speaks of paradigm shift, I believe this is what is being referred to! The answer that flashed into my mind like a picture was: The benefits of sonship. Sonship do...

Ihunanya means Love in Igbo language. When broken down, it reveals the Igbo people's concept of love. 'Ihu' means 'to see' 'nanya' means 'with the eyes' So ihunanya means 'To see with the eyes'. By this interpretation, it means that the Igbo people believe that love is a function of the sight. Love is inspired by what you see with your eyes and maintained by what you see with your eyes. Although this sounds like 'fake love' because love should not just lie with what a person sees but should be unconditional. However, there lies truth in that concept. When you love someone, you have eyes for that person only. You may see every other man or woman but your eyes (attention and interest) have been captured by just that one man or woman. That is why you hear people say, " I have eyes just for you" or " I see you ." These statements are traced to the Igbo concept of love which is seeing only that person with your eyes. I...

Everybody has something they will pay any amount to have, even though the price may be high. It is all about need and interest. I have seen trainings offered for free but did not register for them, inspite of the juicy topics and subjects they will treat. But when I saw a training for French language that I had to pay for, I registered for it. That is interest! This is the same for every other person. There are products and services people will be willing to pay high prices for but have ignored others which were cheaper. Interest is built.  In my Adminstrative Law class in 300 level at the University, the lecturer was talking about the Royal family of Britain in passing. I was amazed how she knew so much and spoke as though she was from there. Then I asked her a question, "How do you know about all these?" "Interest," she replied. I was like, "Huh?"  She repeated the same word, "Interest." I thought to myself that I was not done with my studies ...

I have achieved more in isolation than when I was so called busy.  Unusual ideas and projects have been birthed through my lonely and isolated times. Great accomplishments have been made during my period of not having to go out in the morning and come back at night in the name of going to work. I employed myself. I promoted my brand to myself and I bought my ideas! God uses the isolation periods to bring out the ideas that have been sleeping inside of you. He uses it as an opportunity for you to engage yourself and produce mind blowing results for all to see. Life is not about going to work in the morning and returning at night. It is not about looking busy to yourself and people around. It is not also about having a salary at the end of the month or earning income. When you get the opportunity to engage yourself, your in-depth talent appears. Your capabilities which you were unaware of show up. Personally, most remarkable things I have accomplished came forth when I was in the st...

In my childhood days, my parents will buy a fowl during Christmas and it will be used in preparing the "Christmas stew".  There was usually an order for the distribution: The first born son gets the head of the chicken as his right. I and my immediate elder sister each got the limbs of the chicken. My immediate younger brother got one of the wings of the chicken sometimes or one of the limbs instead of my immediate elder sister. I cannot remember what my other two elder sisters got. Then the lap, breast and other chunky parts of the chicken will be served to my parents. For every Christmas that came and went, this tradition continued. My elder brother insisted on the head as a right and the house will not remain the same if a mistake is made in giving another person his right, which is the head of the chicken. When we grew up, things started changing around the house. My elder brother stopped caring about the head of chicken because he soon realized that there was no meat th...

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  My sister said to me a certain time, "I don't like eating a food that tastes like another kind of food. If I'm eating yam and it's tasting like chicken or I'm eating soup and it's tasting like jollof rice, it's confusing to me and I don't like it at all."  This statement made me laugh plus her  facial expression as she was speaking. I thought to myself that she was very selective. Years later, I realized that it was also true for me. I like to eat cucumber, but I will not enjoy eating a banana that tastes like cucumber. I enjoy eating soup and swallow (eba, fufu, etc) but one day, I tasted a jollof macaroni that tasted like soup, I couldn't eat it, at all. If it's egusi soup I'm eating, let it taste like it and not like something else. You feel me. If it's you I'm meeting, let me meet you. If it is another person or a character in a movie I'm meeting, let me meet that person. Be you, because it's you we want to 'ta...

Mba! Ó wughi mgbe uwa kwere ka m ga ekwere. Mana m ga ekwere na agbanyeghi ma uwa o kwere ma o kweghi. Na adighi anya, uwa ga ekwe. N'ihi na "Onye kwere, Chi ya ekwere." (No! It is not when the world agrees that I will agree. Rather, I will agree notwithstanding if the world agrees or not. In no distant time, the world will agree. Because, "If one agrees, his God will agree.) You are a force to be reckoned with by the world itself. Man has discovered and invented a lot of things that the environment seemed to oppose at first, but finally, he won. For there to be a breakthrough, will-power must be applied. That is where the agreement comes in. If you will it, you will see it and you can do/become it.  That is why God gave you the will. It's a powerful force. By the application of will, men have changed their background, their history, their lot and have moulded something better for themselves. If you will it, you will do it. You are not created to be controlled by...